Why Faith and Family Are the Cure for Loneliness

June 1 | Posted by mrossol | Health, Interesting, Marriage, Personal Development

Source: Why Faith and Family Are the Cure for Loneliness

By Timothy S. Goeglein   May 31, 2023

Commentary

A few weeks ago, the U.S. Surgeon General issued an alarming report (pdf) on the state of loneliness in America. While expressing great concern about the toll loneliness takes on a person’s mental health, the report goes on to ignore two of the best antidotes for curing the problem: family and faith.

According to the 2021 Current Population Survey’s Annual Social and Economic Supplement, the percentage of adults living with a spouse decreased from 52 percent to 50 percent over the previous decade, while the number of adults over the age of 18 living alone increased to 37 million, up from 33 million in 2011—28 percent of all U.S. households.

The statistics get even more sobering: 34 percent of adults over the age of 15 have never been married, compared to 23 percent in 1950; the estimated median age to marry is now 30.4 for men and 28.6 for women, up from 23.7 and 20.5 in 1947; and 17 percent of both men and women between the ages of 25 and 34 lived with an unmarried partner.

That’s just the marriage statistics. For the family, it becomes even more alarming. The number of families with their own children under age 18 living at home has declined from 48 percent in 2001 to just 40 percent in 2021. The actual share of the 130 million American households headed by married parents with children decreased from 18.6 percent in 2020 to 17.8 percent in 2021. In contrast, more than 40 percent of homes in 1970 were headed by married parents with children.

When people live alone, they often lack connections, leading to loneliness, which can be deadly. In his book, “Loneliness,” University of Chicago professor John Cacioppo wrote that the negative health risks of living alone are far worse than air pollution or obesity. But one can’t make significant connections sitting behind a computer screen all day.

That’s why we can’t ignore the factors that faith and family play in keeping us connected so we aren’t a society composed of “all the lonely people,” as the Beatles once sang about in their song “Eleanor Rigby.”

First, it’s families that provide the vital social connections—a husband with his wife, parents with their children, parents with other parents, children with other children—that we all need to thrive. These relationships build upon each other, with the family serving as the foundation.

But there’s hope, and it isn’t too late to reverse the damage that has been wrought. That hope comes through faith and commitment, and not government solutions. If we’re to become less lonely people, we must seek out those institutions—marriage, family, and faith—that make us more connected people.

As Erica Komisar writes for the Institute for Family Studies: “Religion used to be the bedrock of society. Communities revolved around a place of worship, ingraining a moral compass and a higher sense of purpose into Americans. Over the years, Americans have rejected faith, leaving emptiness in its place. The loss of faith has robbed society and its citizens of a sanctuary in the storm of life. When faith dies, who defines morality? What are people living for? What is left to hold communities together? It’s no surprise that loneliness and aimlessness are on the rise.”

Couple the loss of religion with broken marriages, latchkey children, and a society now glued more to its smartphones and tablets but with no meaningful connections elsewhere, and you have a recipe for isolation and depression. Komisar concludes, “Loneliness is merely the symptom of society’s degradation of family structures, faith, and meaningful friendships.”

If we as a nation are serious about addressing/confronting loneliness, and if we want to reduce youth suicide, the best manner to do this is through the strengthening of families, marriage, parenting, and the deepening of our faith, not ignoring these critical factors for our overall mental and spiritual health.

Through strengthening these institutions, I’m confident we’ll see personal restoration for those who are lonely. Most of all, instead of isolation and fragmentation, we’ll see community, hope, and unity as all come to live a life built on a solid foundation of faith and family. Our present epidemic of loneliness can be reversed if we return to focus on God and on others, instead of ourselves.

Views expressed in this article are the opinions of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Epoch Times.

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